There are several reasons why I wrote my book, one of those reasons was to help other dads (and moms) through the aftermath of losing a child. The only way I knew how to do that was to be brutally honest with myself and with the readers. I knew I had to force myself to be vulnerable and transparent, which was not an easy task for me. The following is a message I received over the weekend from a fellow grieving dad. I am humbled by how far this book has reached and the people it has touched. Bruce and all the others that continue to reach out to me is the main reason this book was written.
“Good morning Kelly,
My name is Bruce and like you I am a member of this awful club. I lost my ten year old son, Garrett, in February of 2013 and the last 22 months have certainly taken me to the brink and almost back. “Back” would mean returning to where I was before Garrett’s death and I am well aware that I will never be “there” again.
I finished reading your book last night and I will honestly say I wish I would have read it a year ago. For the first year after Garrett’s death, I, like many dads, tried to be the rock and man up to the grief that was trying to attack my already destroyed world. I spent twelve months “faking it” on the outside while everything inside was in an emotional war. Finally I sought out professional help through a grief counselor to help me understand, cope with, and even invite the grief in. Had I read your book earlier, I would have understood this is normal, I’m not going crazy, there are others like me, and I certainly would have sought professional help much sooner.
Thank you for writing this book and helping so many grieving fathers like me. I hate the club that we’re in but I have grown to respect and admire many of its members.
Thank you Kelly for what you are doing to help dads like me. I know your pain, I feel the same hole in my heart that you feel in yours, and I share your desire to help other dads with their grief journeys.
May God’s peace be with you and all grieving dads this Christmas season, Bruce”
How has Grieving Dads: To the Brink and Back helped you?