Well, here we are, another Fathers’s Day. A day that grieving dads dread. A day that makes us think about being a dad to a child (in my case two children) that has died. Everyday is a day that makes us think about the “what could/should have been’s”, but Father’s Day is one of those hand full of days that makes us reflect a little longer and a little deeper.

Over the last couple of weeks, I have been feeling the pressure to write something profound for Father’s Day. Something that will help grieving dads get through this day, but nothing came to me. I was drawing a complete blank. The more I thought about it the more I became frustrated with myself for not being able to write something meaningful.

It finally dawned on me this morning when I sat down to write this post. There isn’t anything I can do or say that will remove the darkness of this day. As proud as I am to be the father of my children, its still a tough day. Thinking of my children makes me smile and sad at the same time which is kind of a weird place to find yourself. Let me reword that, thinking of my children makes me smile, realizing they are not here with me, makes me sad. They don’t make me sad, their lack of presence makes me sad.

I plan on spending today working out in my yard and going for a run. Finding something that allows me to think about them but not sit around dwelling on the sadness of the day, but to connect with them just a little. I will be doing things that bring me an element of peace.

How are you going to spend the day with your children?

Wishing all of you a peaceful Father’s Day.

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  • Greetings to my fellow parents, Fathers day is no different in as far as the mourning of my daughter that will remain the same for my lifetime every day.My two sons present me with the life skills of being a Father and I am so grateful for the treats they get me for me but we all share the drink and chocolates they provide for me together and raise a toast for a daughter and sister so sadly missed.God bless one and all.

  • Yes, thank you for posting. Today I will be making my way to church. Then to visit my daughters garden. My wife and i bring blankets to lay with my daughter and just be in her presence. It brings us a peace that we can’t really find anywhere else. My daughter went home just over four months ago, so the emotions are still pretty fresh and difficult at times. Tried to avoid thinking about today as the week progressed, but work conversations made it next to impossible to do so. Each day is hard, but today’s been a different kind of hard. I agree, thinking of her brings me tons of joy but the fact she’s not hear physically, is a pain that’s too much to even try to describe. Want to wish you all a happy fathers day!

  • Rick Snider

    Thank you…yes, there are no words of comfort. This Father’s Day is the fifth anniversary of the day of our son Chris’ death. A “double whammy” of sorts, I guess. Our other son is a nurse and must work today, so my wife and I plan to just spend the day doing as the Lord leads. We avoid church on Father’s and Mother’s day, as it is just too painful. So, we slept in and now half of this hard day is behind us. My prayers go out to you and all the other fathers (and mothers) who are grieving the loss of their child. This is not how it is supposed to be.