I know it’s been awhile since I have posted something on my blog, but for some reason have been struggling with things to say. To be honest, I am getting to the point where I feel like I have said everything I had to say. I apologize to those that depend on me for insight into what they are feeling, especially the newly bereaved or those who have recently found this blog. I can assure you that there are previously posted topics that I did write about that connections can be made with. Not to mention the men that has continued to post on subjects and offer support to the new comers. I appreciated their help with reaching out to the others that need it. As I have said before, there is healing in helping others. This isn’t a post to say I am done blogging on the topic of men’s grief, not even close. I will continue to post on topics that strike a chord with me; you just never know when those will occur.
I have transitioned my focus to conducting training workshops to help caregivers on the front lines understand the pain bereaved parents feel and how to help these individuals, especially the men. If you are aware of any organizations (hospitals, not-for-profits, hospice, chaplain organizations, funeral organizations or military loss groups) that would benefit from the training I offer, please let them know about my full day and ½ day workshops. Who better to train these individuals on parental bereavement than someone who understands the impact all too well?
I have also been focusing my time on the Farley-Kluger Initiative (www.FarleyKluger.com) to changing the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) to include the death of a child as a reason to qualify for the benefits allowed under this existing law. I still find it hard to believe that you can take 12 weeks of unpaid time off when a child is born, but when that child dies, you only get 3-5 bereavement leave that your company may or may not provide. We were in Washington DC last week to meet with over 40 legislatures in the House and Senate. I am happy to announce that a Bill was introduced in the House by Congressman Steve Israel (NY) and Senator Jon Tester (MT) while we were in DC. Very exciting indeed, but we still have a lot of work to do. When need help from others that are willing to help us fight for this Bill to make sure it gets passed to help others. We hear it only has a 10% chance of ever becoming a law. Which would be the case if we were the only two people working on it, we need help. If you are interested joining us on this, please contact me. We have a strategy to get other elected officials on board to support these Bills, but need help implementing it.
I just wanted to give an update for those who thought I have disappeared from this blog and was just laying low hanging out on my couch watching TV. There has been lots of exciting things going on and I appreciate all of the encouragement I have received. Those that have read my book know that one of my messages is “find a purpose to honor your children” and I believe everything I do with and for bereaved parents are a direct result of losing Katie and Noah. I am honored to have been able to help others and to sit with/speak with them when they are the lowest point in their life.