The following was sent to me by a fellow grieving dad and guest blogger. Please help me welcome Jack to Grieving Dads. I think we all can relate with the topic he wrote about in his introduction below. I use to tell people “no” when they would ask “Do you have children?”. Now I welcome the question, because I love to talk about both of them. I also take some enjoyment in seeing the uncomfortable look on their faces when I tell them I have lost two children. How do you approach this subject?
Claim Your Child
I would like to take a minute to introduce myself and thank Kelly for the opportunity to be a guest blogger. My name is Jack and I am 30 years old, a police officer, and I have been married for 6 years and have 5 total children. A 5-year-old girl, triplet boys that are 3, and a 4 month old rainbow baby girl. One of the triplets passed at 6 months, he never made it out of the hospital (stupid hospital). We will save that topic for another post. Anyways leading into this I still say I have 5 kids because I do, just because one is not here in my presence on earth does not mean he is still not my son. I have people all the time that question me when I say 5, I say “Yes 5, Logan is still with me and my family and still one of our kids, he just lives with God.” This freaks people out when I talk about it in public but I’m open and honest. Heck, sometimes I enjoy seeing the expressions on their face when I talk about Logan being still one of my kids. Most people get weirded out and just hush, others actually want to talk about it. I open for either. I still claim my son as being mine and count him when people ask how many kids I have. When people ask my wife sometimes she says 4 living and one in heaven. Other times she just says 4, because she does not want to deal with the explanation or the fake “oh I’m sorry” or “I know how you feel” from people. Because sometimes I call them out and I ask, “oh really how do you know how I feel, have you lost a child?” Most get upset but I have also met some people who have lost children. In close I say claim your child even if they’re not with you here on earth. – Jack