Reach One Another
“No one feels another’s grief; no one understands another’s joy. People imagine they can reach one another. In reality they only pass each other by.” – Franz Schubert
I know I speak for myself when I say, “I use to pass others by”. I never understood the pain of others and to be honest, I never went out of my way to care. I mean really care, by reaching out with a hug, phone call or even as a good listener. I want to be clear here, I cared if others were in pain, but I never did anything about it. I would think to myself “that’ sucks” and move on with my day. I used the excuses, “I didn’t know what to say” or “I’ll just give them some time on their own, I don’t want to bother them”.
I can honestly say that going through the loss of two children opened my eyes to what others go through in life. I agree with the quote above, no one feels another’s grief. However, I truly believe we can reach each one another if we stop and listen. Allowing others to tell you about their pain, however deep it is, provides them an outlet. They in return feel a sense of trust and compassion that someone really cares about them and what they are dealing with.
Although I never set out to be this type of person in my life, I have now experienced the power of not passing others by. I see pain in others that I never used to see. This blog and my work with grieving dads/parents is my way of reaching out and hopefully allowing others to feel like someone cares.
What do you think of this quote? Can you relate with it in some way?