I was recently interviewed on the Open to Hope Radio Program. Click the link below to listen to the interview. It’s about my experience through the death of my children, the Grieving Dads Project and the FMLA modification efforts. About 20 minutes. Let me know what you think.
http://www.opentohope.com/?open-to-hope-radio=kelly-farley-grieving-dad
Gail, You might try it again as I was able to hear it just fine.
Kelly, I liked the interview and it was nice to finally hear you “in person”. I’ve written in response to many of your blogs and as a result have come away a better man.
If you’ll recall, I lost my daughter Allison very suddenly on the 29th of December 2010. After finding your website, I clung to it as if it were my only lifeline to sanity. You and the gentlemen with whom I corresponded were my safety net, and you did not let me down.
Your articles and posts, and those of the community, have helped me cope with one of the most nightmarish journeys I’ve ever encountered. I’ve been able to see signposts of possible behavioral/medical problems long before they manifest themselves into something serious.
I’d like to conclude that the journey is over, but I recently found out it wasn’t, and probably won’t be for quite some time. Two weekends in a row recently I had breakdowns wherein I just shut down for no apparent reason. I would feel depressed, then walk into the bedroom and go to sleep…and sleep for many hours. Upon reflection, it was always after I had some thought about Allison, some trigger, however slight.
As a result, my wife and I have just begun professional counseling. While I feel your words and those of the community were and are valuable, for me they’ve reached the limit to which they can help without outside assistance.
Had I listened to you and others from the outset, I would’ve started this process much sooner. But that goes to the core of why you started the project, that being of a man too proud to accept outside help. It took me 8 months to get to this point, but I’m glad I finally accepted a helping hand.
PLease accept my most humblest thanks for being there when I needed it most.
John
Sanger, Texas
John,
We have to find our own path, but I am proud of you for having the courage to acknowledge that you needed the help. It’s was hard to put my pride aside to allow others to help me, but if I didn’t, I wouldn’t be were I am today. Embrace the journey, there will be setbacks at times, but keep moving forward. Learn to accept the new path you are on, you really have no choice.
I am very happy to hear that this blog and the articles you found here were something you could cling to on those darks days. I know they have reached their limits, but please continue to learn and educate others on your journey through professional counseling. The good and the bad. Men have such a tough time walking into a counselors office. I did, in fact I cried the first time I went in because I felt weak, like I let myself down. I was so wrong and paid a huge price for not going sooner. We need help on this journey and its ok to ask for it and embrace it.
Very proud of you.
Peace.
Kelly
I think i’m missing something here Kelly. I can’t get it to play.
Gail,
It should take you to another website and then you click the “arrow” button and it should play, if it doesn’t, let me know and I will email it to you.
Peace.
Kelly