One of my main reasons for starting this blog and the Grieving Dads Project was to let other dads know they are not alone in the pain they feel, the thoughts (good and bad) that enter their mind, physical symptoms they experience, feelings of depression/anxiety and the fears that creep in that no one else knows about. There are many more experiences that I could go into greater detail with, but the ultimate point I am trying to make is, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
I have heard from grieving dads from around the world that have told me that until they found this blog, they felt like they were the only one out there feeling the way they did. The reason being is that most of us guys are not programmed to go out and tell the world how we are feeling which in turn causes feelings of isolation for all of us that are out there. I have read statistics that say close to 1 million parents in the United States experience the death of a child every year. That means 500,000 grieving dads are created every year in the US alone. Add that number to the rest of the world and it is staggering. Trust me when I say this, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
I felt alone in my grief and pain for years before I realized that I wasn’t. However, it took another guy with courage to share his pain with me. When he started to tell me his stories of the daily battles that he faced, I felt like I was listening to my own story being told by someone else. I felt a sense of relief when he told me his story, not because someone else was inflicted with this pain, but it was the fact I realized that I wasn’t alone and I didn’t have to do this by myself.
As part of my realization, I made it one of my missions in life to talk about my experiences and feelings so others wouldn’t have to travel this road alone. Just the fact that I knew I was not the only one traveling on this path helped me tremendously and I want this blog to serve in that manner for others. I want this blog to be a safe place to talk about all of the things we are dealing with.
No matter where you are on your journey, I believe you will find someone here on this blog that can relate with some aspect of what you are dealing with. There are several thousand visitors to this blog every month that are searching for someone else that understands the pain they carry.
If you are a first time visitor to this blog, I want you to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE and that there are people here that truly care about you and will do whatever it takes to help you on your journey. Please reach out to me and let me know what I (or other grieving dads in my network) can do to help you. You do not have to travel this path alone, I hear from other grieving dads almost daily that ask me to let them know if another grieving dad needs support from someone that has walked in their shoes.