I have been posting a series of “Truisms About Grief” that I received from fellow grieving dad and friend, Charlie Schmidtke. I met Charlie as part of this grieving dads project. Please share your thoughts or stories regarding this subject.
Don’t let anyone else tell you when and how you should deal with your loved one’s personal effects, room, etc. How and when you should deal with those treasures varies widely. In fact, you may find that spouses, siblings, etc. have very different time schedules or ideas about what to do. Tolerance and patience should be the guide in determining the best ways for families to heal when attending to these issues. It is very destructive for someone to try to dictate to others when and how a child’s clothes, for example, should be handled. Be careful not to impose your time schedule on another family member’s grief either.