“Just for Today” for Bereaved Parents – (Section Eight)
Just for today I will not compare myself with others. I am fortunate to be who I am and have had my child for as long as I did.
I must say I don’t really like this “Just for Today”. I know it’s easy to compare ourselves to others while we are in our grief and after our grief. But I still struggle with seeing other dads walking through the park holding the hand of their daughter or when I see a dad playing catch with his son. I envy them. I feel like I missed so much by not getting more time with my children. They were only in my life for a few months, but they have both changed my life forever.
Although I do feel “fortunate” to have had my child for as long as I did, it still doesn’t take away the pain of not having them longer. I hate when people say, “God must have needed another angel in heaven”. Really? How do you know what God wants? I like the response from one of the grieving dads I have spoken to regarding that statement. His response was “yeah, whatever”.
I received the ”Just for Today” poem from a fellow grieving dad and friend that I met through this project. I have been posting separate sections of the poem to ponder. The poem was written for bereaved parents by Vicki Tushingham.