I received the following from Steve House who is a fellow grieving dad. What do you think, can we truly “heal” from our wounds or do we just survive them?
I would like to share some thoughts with you. I believe all of the parents that experience grief need to try to be optimistic about life without their child. However, I think the promise of true healing may be too optimistic.
There are some wounds that even GOD cannot heal. There is a difference between healing and surviving, there is a young man from my home town that has recently returned from Iraq with serious wounds, he has lost both arms and one leg and other internal injuries. Our community moved quickly to raise funds to help him and his family, I heard very often from well meaning people about when he heals “he can live the rest of his life.” He will survive his wounds but as grieving parents we know healing may be a place we never get to.
The reason I point this out is that I fear sometimes that when we are told “time will heal our wounds” we may face the frustration and disappointment of never getting there. Therefore, we feel like we failed to achieve what everyone says is possible. So I see a difference in surviving and healing from your wounds. Any thoughts?